If you’re living in a troubled relationship, but fear taking action, stop. By not doing something to change the course of a troubled relationship, you could be doing yourself, your partner and your chances for future success a very big disservice.
Fear of communicating openly and honestly with your partner will not improve your relationship. Sometimes you simply have to “rock the boat” to make a difference and put yourself back on the right path. Even if some feelings get hurt along the way or your partner doesn’t believe there is an issue, saying something before the problems you perceive eat away at you is essential.
The reality is that even if your partner does not agree you have a troubled relationship, if you think you do, you do. To address your concerns head on and avoid further problems down the road, you must bring your concerns out into the light of day and make an attempt to work on them together as a couple.
Even if your attempts to repair a troubled relationship do not work out, taking a positive step forward is still worth the effort. By failing to take action to salvage a troubled relationship when you see the warning signs, you could suffer these consequences:
* Internal conflict – When you realize you have a troubled relationship and you fail to act, you can begin to be eaten away inside with doubts, worries, concerns and negative thoughts. While your partner may think the issue is a “mole hill,” you could turn it into a “mountain” by refusing to air things out.
* Apathy – Living in a troubled relationship can be a very difficult, trying and draining undertaking. If no resolution to your problems is forthcoming, you may find yourself feeling apathetic about your relationship and even your life in general. While this will damage your troubled relationship even more, apathy ultimately causes you even more harm. Self-respect requires that you take action to create a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship. Even if this means you have to break a few eggs, the discomfort of confronting the issues can be well worth it.
* Worsening of problems – Small problems that are allowed to fester tend to grow out of proportion. When you feel your relationship is heading in the wrong direction, acting immediately to identify issues, communicate with your partner and try to revolve them is essential. Even the most minor of complaints can become a relationship-breaker if it’s allowed to simmer unchecked for too long.
* An eventual break – If a troubled relationship is allowed to continue unchecked the ultimate result might be a breakup that is irreconcilable. If this is not the case, it is possible the relationship will become so mired in inaction and other unhealthy behaviors that both partners will suffer living in a unhappy, unfulfilling situation. It is better to work on communication, air grievances and let the chips fall where they may than to spend a life unfulfilled.
Living in a troubled relationship demands action. When positive, healthy steps are taken to mend problems, couples can grow stronger, better and healthier as a result. The outcome might be the relationship you have dreamed of having.
The risks are worth the potential rewards and the cost of inaction is too high for you, your partner and your relationship.